Mar 21, 2008

Polish Wedding Traditions

Parts of the Polish Wedding

Engagement period- Oswiadczyny, Zareczyny or Zrekowiny.

Invitation time- Zaprosiny or Oprosiny.

Wedding Day- Church and reception

Next Day party- In Poland sometimes 3 days party.

The engagement ceremony comes before the wedding. The engagement is usually a small ceremony that takes place in the house of the parents or parents in law (either the bride or the groom). Many times this is a time when in-laws meet each other the first time.

Wedding traditions demanded that guests be invited in a certain obligatory manner. First, invitations were issued to relatives or friends to act as groomsmen or bridesmaids. The bride and groom then went to invite their godparents. In some sections of Poland old custom forbade the exclusion of anyone in the village from being invited to the wedding.

Some Polish brides and grooms like to celebrate the big change in their lives - the wedding - with a bachelor and bachelorette party. The bachelor and bachelorette party sometimes takes place a night before the wedding but more often - on a Saturday or Friday - a week or two before the wedding ceremony. During the bachelor party, the groom gets to go out and socialize with his guy friends. They usually visit a couple of bars where they have drinks, play pool or throw darts. During the bachelorette party, the bride either goes out with her girl friends or invites the girl friends to her house for a light meal and drinks. During the party, the girls talk, gossip, play games, and listen to music.

A wedding ceremony is usually both religious and civil and takes place first a magistrate and then in a church.

The most typical wish to the newlywed:
"Zycze Wam wszystkiego najlepszego na nowej drodze zycia."
I wish you all of the best on your new road through life.

There are several ways to express Polish traditions on the wedding day:


Before the church ceremony everyone would gather at the home of the bride to accompany the bridal couple to the church, but also to witness the blessing and symbolic farewells of the bride with her parents, relatives, and friends. The blessing by the parents before church were seen as more important than the church ceremony itself. A crucifix, a lighted candle, a bowl of holy water and a sprinkler (if the regular Polish brush-type sprinkler is not available, this can be a leafy tree branch) should be prepared. Traditionally the mother of the bride gives the blessing. Either kneelers or some cushions are provided for the bride and groom to kneel on. They hold hands as they kneel in front of their parents. The mother then sprinkles the bride and groom-to-be with Holy Water, whereupon they make the Sign of the Cross. She then gives them the crucifix to kiss. The father of the bride may utter a blessing of his own or simply sprinkle the couple with Holy Water. The bridegroom's parents may also impart their blessing. Others, for instance grandparents, or godparents may also bless the couple.

After the blessing, the bride and groom thank, hug and kiss their parents and the wedding party prepares to leave for church. Years ago, the blessings were so important that, if a mother or father had died, the wedding party would stop at the cemetery where the groom or bride asked for a blessing from the deceased parent.

The Bread and Salt Blessing is an old and most popular Polish tradition. At the wedding reception, the parents of the bride and groom greet the newly married couple with bread, which is lightly sprinkled with salt and a goblet of wine.

Parents usually say:
"Staropolskim zwyczajem witamy Was chlebem i sola, aby w Waszym domu zawsze goscil dostatek."
"According to our Old Polish tradition, we greet you with bread and salt, so that your home might always enjoy abundance."

With the bread, the parents are hoping that their children will never hunger of be in need. With the salt, they are reminding the couple that their life may be difficult at times, and they must learn to cope with life's struggles. Also It was believed that salt had the power to heal and cleanse, uncover thieves, protect houses against fire, dispel storms and hail, and drive away evil spirits. The wine symbolizes the desire that the couple will never go thirsty, and that their lives will be filled with health and happiness. After the bride and groom each taste a piece of bread they break the plate and glass for good luck. The parents then kiss them as a sign of welcome, unity, and love.

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Mar 20, 2008

Must-Have Wedding Pictures

Every moment of your Wedding day is special and you want to remember them all, but here are some moments you Must-Have pictures taken of. These are the simple moments in time where you will show your grandkids how special your Wedding day was.

The "Reveal"
Whether you are meeting up for photos before the service or you are not seeing each other until the Church, this is a classic picture you will regret not having. It is the moment when the Groom first sees the Bride in the Wedding Gown and the look on his face shows you why he wants to marry this gal.

Reception Tables: Pre-Party
A shot of the Table at the reception set up to the "T"s is an absolutely gorgeous picture. This will show people all the work you have put into deciding and choosing a color scheme, it will showcase the table Centerpieces and it will do so in an untouched, perfect state before your guests start messing it up.

The Group Shot
Whether walking back from the beach or exiting the church, you should try to get a picture of the entire Wedding Congregation. This is a spectacular shot showing off all the people whom love you.

Hanging Gown
Having a picture of the Wedding Gown prior to your appearance in it will be memorable. It is hanging in the Window with the new day shining on it. It is perfect and untouched. This picture will justify whatever you spent on it.

First Dance From a Distance
Now a close-up will typically be taken by a hundred people. You want to make sure you also get a picture from a distance with the lighting just right to show off the great couple dancing.

Entering the Reception (from your Point of View)
This is a great shot. It shows off the Newlyweds and also highlights the people who love you the most. It allows a happy shot to exemplify your family love.

There are a list of pictures to be taken during your photo time, too. All of these include the Newlyweds.

Bridal Couple
Bride's Family
Grooms Family
Bridal Party
Extended relatives
Bride and Grooms Parents
Children of the Couple

There are no rules and most photographers will know most of the groupings to get started. Remember that you want to make sure you know the pictures you are having taken prior to the Wedding day. And be wary of adding pictures, the last thing you want is to throw the rest of the day off schedule because dad wants pictures of all the third cousins.

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Mar 19, 2008

Bridal Party Gifts

It's standard that in addition to all the wonderful gifts you're receiving, you're going to be giving gifts to the people who are helping make your day special. Don't forget to work these into your budget. Here's a list of people not to forget, and also some suggestions for each. You know your attendants, and what they will like most. Getting them each the same gift can be great, but don't feel that you have to. Something that is a commonly suggested gift for a groomsman might actually work better for one of your bridesmaids, or vice versa. Remember, it's the thought that counts, so don't let this be a source of undue stress. Keep an open mind, and have fun picking out these gifts.

- A necklace and/or earrings they could wear during the ceremony, but also on future occasions. This could be the same for each bridesmaid, or you could individualize the gifts.
- A charm bracelet- this one is easy to personalize for each woman
- A nice jewelry box
- A fancy purse.
- A figurine of something that matches your friendship.
- A pampering gift certificate
- A monogrammed tote bag with some goodies in it

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- Monogrammed flasks seem to be quite common. I don't know anyone who has received one of these who has actually used it, though.
- Engraved golf gizmos
- Tickets to a sporting event or a concert.
- An engraved pocket watch or desk clock
- A pocketknife
- A desk caddy, or something else for the office
- A tool box or bag

Flower girl
- A "younger" version of the type of jewelry you give the bridesmaids
- A charm bracelet
- A locket
- A jewelry box
- Depending on the age, a teddy bear in fancy garb, or a gift certificate to a "Make your own teddy bear" place
- A framed picture of you and her on the big day
- A tote or duffel bag that says her name and Flower Girl
- A piggy bank
- A simple camera

Ring Bearer
- Sports-themed gifts- duffel bags, room decorations, t-shirts, sports equipment
- Depending on the age, a teddy bear in fancy garb, or a gift certificate to a "Make your own teddy bear" place
- A piggy bank
- A simple camera
- A toy you know he really wants
- A video game

- Heartfelt thank you letters the day of or before the wedding- a good idea whether or not you are giving them something else
- Photo frames
- Photo albums
- Watches
- A piece of artwork suitable to their taste
- A toiletry kit

Clergy person
- This isn't someone you tip directly, but think about making a contribution to their parish
- Also write them a nice thank you

- There are so many options for favors, this subject needs to be addressed all by itself!


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Dress Shopping Dilemma

So far, I've had two very different types of dress-shopping experiences.

I'll start with the "Don't go this route" shop. It was the second shop I had visited; it was also the smallest and most expensive one I've been to. There was confusion when I got there as to who was helping me- another appointment at the same time had almost the same name as me. The first woman who was helping me asked what I was looking for, I said more simple than elaborate, and anything I said after that didn't matter. She "knew" what I wanted and thus only brought me one type of dress. This was the first time I'd tried on a dress and actually hated the way I looked. Another saleslady took over, and despite the first one insisting I wanted a plain dress, she did bring me a variety, and there was one I loved.

Another shop I went to was wonderful. Good prices, huge selection, friendly service, and a good reputation. Our saleslady had us look at all the dresses and pick a few, but for the most part she picked the next dress for me to try on based on how I felt about each dress I had already tried on. We placed cap sleeves onto a strapless dress to see how that would look. We tried different veils, different headpieces. None of the dresses looked exactly how I'd imagined they would based on what they looked like hanging up; most of them did look better on.

The first dress and veil I tried on, I cried. I didn't expect to, but they keep tissues in the dressing rooms for a reason I guess. So, the first dress you try on, you might love, but keep trying them on- you might love more of them, too. My favorite was the no pressure but still helpful saleswoman. She just kept bringing me dresses and helping me in and out of them, and if I hesitated after I looked in the mirror and said "Nope, not that one then." Good luck finding yours. This is such a big issue I'm sure I'll be writing more about this later, but here's a start.

I'm still searching for The dress, but I know it's out there.
Happy Shopping


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Mar 18, 2008

Bridal Shower Planning Guides

When you have been asked to plan a Bridal Shower, there are many topics to be dealt with. The following books are great guides to helping you plan a perfect Wedding Shower. I have included links to the detail page of each, which gives you the ability to purchase these Bridal Shower Books through which is safe and secure.

Bridal Shower Books

The Everything Wedding Shower Book: Thrill the Bride and Amaze the Guests With a Celebration to Remember
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The Ultimate Bridal Shower Idea Book: How to Have a Fun, Fabulous, and Memorable Party
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Bridal Showers: Special Touches and Unique Ideas for Throwing a Fabulous Showers
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Bridal Shower Games: Fun Party Games and Helpful Tips for the Hostess
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Complete Idiot's Guide to BRIDAL SHOWERS
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Wilton Bridal Showers
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Creative Ideas for Bridal and Baby Showers
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Bridal Shower Handbook: The Complete Guide to Planning the Perfect Party
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Bridal Shower Party Games
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The Bride's Essential Wedding Planner: Deluxe Edition
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Knot Ultimate Wedding Planner: Worksheets, Checklists, Etiquette, Calendars, and Answers to Frequently Asked Questions
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Priceless Weddings for under $5,000
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Emily Post's Wedding Planner
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The Bride's Book of Lists: Things to Do and Questions to Ask
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Bridal Bargains: Secrets to Throwing a Fantastic Wedding on a Realistic Budget
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The Engaged Groom: You're Getting Married. Read This Book: Your Complete Wedding Guide
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The Ultimate Wedding Idea Book: 1,001 Creative Ideas To Make Your Wedding Fun, Romantic & Memorable
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Emily Post's Wedding Planner for Moms
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The Complete Wedding Planner & Organizer
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Somebody is Going to Die If Lilly Beth Doesn't Catch that Bouquet: The Official Southern Ladies' Guide to Hosting the Perfect Wedding
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Knot Book of Wedding Lists: The Ultimate Guide to the Perfect Day, Down to the Smallest Detail
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Bravo! Wedding Planner
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Groom-to-Be's Handbook: The Ultimate Guide to a Fabulous Ring, a Memorable Proposal, and a Perfect Wedding
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Great Wedding Planning Books

No matter how simple your Wedding Day will be, even the simplest Wedding will require a detailed plan. You will need a place to organize your budgets, keep track of vendors contracts and offers that are made. You will need at least one Wedding Planning guide to get you through your Special Day. I have compiled a list of Wedding Planning Guides that are top-notched and highly effective. Some of these guides are expensive, but I have only included them in this list, If I feel they offer enough perks to be worth the price. Included is a link to the details and a way for you to order each book safely and securely online, through

Wedding Planning Guides

The Ultimate Wedding Planner & Organizer
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How to "I Do" : Planning the Ultimate Wedding in Six Weekends or Less
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The Complete Outdoor Wedding Planner
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The Anti-Bride Guide
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The Creative Wedding Organizer And Planner
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The Knot Ultimate Wedding Planner
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Martha Stewart's Keepsake Wedding Planner
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The Conscious Bride's Wedding Planner
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Planning a Wedding to Remember
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Mar 17, 2008

Wedding Dress Shopping Tips

Things you should know if you're just starting to look at Wedding Gowns:
- Make an appointment BEFORE you go. You'll get really personalized attention, and it's best if they're prepared to give you that.

- When you call, don't feel weird asking if they provide undergarments for trying on dresses. They usually will have a petticoat and a strapless bra there for you. They may also have shoes. Make Sure you know what you need to bring.

- Your Wedding Gown size will be larger than the size of your regular clothes. Doesn't reflect on you personally.

- You'll look at the dresses they have, but the salesperson will for the most part be bringing you the dresses you try on. You might not think you'll like something, but it could look completely different once you try it on.

- Don't buy a dress right away- Think about it overnight at least, to be sure you feel the same way tomorrow. Try on the same dress a couple times if you need, but really, wait until you get the one that you know is the one.

- Eat breakfast or lunch before you go. It's a tiring experience!

- Stay focused. Don't just buy the first dress or feel pressured to buy the best-ish dress, Wait till you see THE dress.


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